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I imagine that a temple of Ilmater will not be a fair enough setting for your guests so the hall of your choosing will be adequate. Choose a hall that you find to be adequate for the company you gather. I go not to minister to all of your guests, for I fear I would fail. Instead, if I can impress upon the couple to be wed a lesson in compassion then that will suffice.
The couple to be wed is to be dressed in homespun, bleached if they like, but undyed. They will approach the an unadorned alter in bare feet. No There are to be no decorations except for a handful of flowers that they each may bring, as long as they pick the flowers themselves. I suspect that the jewels and finery adorning the guests will serve as sufficient decoration for the occasion.
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I require the wedded couple to write their own vows and exchange them on their knees. They will find humility in baring their hearts in the presence of the guests and gods and me. And then I’ll bless their nuptials and the guests.
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